Sheron Cardin's Input...: Coming Out Of The Closet!

I have been an interior designer for over 27 years and I have always taught my clients the principles I used while decorating their home so they may enjoy decorating too. The home staging trend in residential real estate is a great way to reach more people every day and what I enjoy the most is they are learning the basics of good design through staging. It is my dream for every person to know the joy and pride of living in a decorated home.

Coming Out Of The Closet!

Today I have decided to put myself on the other side of the home staging fence and edit my own closet. Here is what I am going through...

  • Pulling the easy stuff out that doesn't mean anything to me like old pajamas, Hawiian shirts that always need ironing but wear them anyway when I work in the garden, hand me downs from friends and family that I took so as not to hurt their feelings...and so on. Gifts that I never wore.
  • I turn around and there is a big pile on my bed
  • I look back to my closet and it is stuffed instead of overstuffed. Hmmm
Okay, will reach back farther.
  • Slinky satin jammies with lace - these can go, all they do is make everything else slide around and fall out
  • Vests for possible cold weather I only wear once or twice a year can go
  • Tops without bottoms or bottoms without tops for one reason or another - too much work so those can go.
  • Purses and handbags from seasons past - pass them on no problem
  • Hats - always a storage problem so will make a pile to see if anyone wants them
So far so good. Here is where I got stuck (again)!

We all know that what we haven't worn in a year is supposed to go, right? The problem is that the next layer I have emotional attachments to and the memories come flooding in as I pull out...

  •  Pink designer outfit I wore to a party held in my honor from a design client pink (with Mom)
  • A dress I made for Cabo cabo I'm on the left btw.

  •  Christmas party at the studio in my Jones New York suit suit

  • Remember the jumpsuit era? My going away part from Dana Poing friends! jumpsuit

  • Hand painted 2 piece cotton outfits with original art! art cotton

See what I am saying? These outfits and dozens more I just cannot bear to part with because they represent some of the best times of my life. I have dragged them with me for years! What am I going to do? I am never ever going to wear them again and I don't know anyone else who will wear them either.

Well all of a sudden I had a light bulb moment...I will document all my favorite moments (the fashionista that I am) by taking pictures of these outfits that I don't have Kodak moments for as well as copying the photo's I do have and putting them on a special disk called "My favorite moments in time".

I actually can let them go now. I can't believe it! I don't have to hang onto them anymore for the memories. I am sooooo excited! For the first time ever I am thouroughly editing my closet.

So the reason for this post is because this is an idea that can be passed on to your reluctant clients. It really works!!!  

Namaste

Comment balloon 47 commentsSheron Cardin • February 24 2007 02:13PM

Comments

Good idea! 

 

If you think you may never wear them again, can't you make up a box and put it in storage?  This way you will keep these outfits that you are attached to, but they won't be taking up closet space....just a thought:)

Posted by Joanna Bonicker, Home Stager - Baltimore, Maryland (First Impressions by Joanna: Home Staging, Redesign, & Decor) almost 13 years ago
Hi Joanna - I never get into my storage where I have thousands of stuffed animals, magazines, and things already. I am doing my family a favor as well. What will they ever do with my clothes. No, taking a picture and keeping my favorite clothes and moments on a disk is just perfect. It is really working!!!
Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

Oh Sheron,

You have once again inspired me... this week I will put myself on the otherside and de-clutter my closet

 

~Kimberly~

Posted by Kimberly Uksik, Home Stager - Durham, Toronto, On. (Independent) almost 13 years ago
Kimberly - it is exhilarating and liberating. I keep going back and looking at my closet. I feel lighter and more like myself. What a great feeling. Have fun! I even cleaned out a trunk and actually put excess blankets in there that are always in the way. I am on a mission of eliminating all annoyances one at a time!
Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

Hi Sheron,

I learned to let go of things when I moved from my large house to a much smaller one (Empty Nest Syndrome!)...I will tell you that it is amazingly liberating to let go of 'old baggage'!  You realize that you hold the precious memories in your heart and can conjure them up with amazing clarity any time that you want!

It's also really good Feng Shui to let go of things you have held onto for whatever reasons!

Now you have to go out and buy some new stuff to take the place of what you let go (Univeral Law?  Nah! Val's Law!)!

Enjoy all that space!

VAL

Posted by Val Allocco, HSE; ASHSR - Home Stager, for Manhattan, Brooklyn & Long Island (Staged 2 Sell New York & Long Island) almost 13 years ago

Hi Val

I am the most organized person I know and yet I hate closets. This last year I have slacked off and there is a slob that lives in me. I do live in a model home and live the life I preach but something happened...could it be all the time I spend at the computer? It is going to take me awhile to rid myself of things that I hold precious...something about my age group is just tired of saying "I plan on..." Nada! No more...! thanks for your support! 

Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

Sheron,

What a wonderful idea!  I know how hard it is to part with some things for sentimental reasons.  I still have some clothes that my Mother bought for me (she died 12 years ago), that I look at from time to time, knowing that I will never wear them.  You've really inspired me to take photos and give these things to people who can really use them.  Thanks!

Posted by Penny Province, Province Staged Properties (Province Staged Properties) almost 13 years ago
Penny - that is wonderful. Some people's memories are around food, some around objects. Mine are around my clothes. Sounds like you are the same. Let us know how you do. I just passed on some things before my yard sale...cashmier. and it only hurts while I was looking at them. There is no pain after. Ahhhh.
Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

What I want to know is how those tops without bottoms or bottoms without tops work...

Actually, I am going through my own stuff these days, in anticipation of Spring Cleaning... and I have accumulated massive amounts of THINGS... in fact, my brother tells me that "you have so much 'stuff' that even your things have things"

Really serious... camping gear from years ago when I was an avid moutaineer, scuba diving gear from when I used to be an avid wreck diver (now more inclined to warm water reef diving, without the depth risks and the overhead obstruction/environment risks, but with all the beauty of a coral reef) and much much more... I even have notebooks from my days at Law School and graduate school... think I opened one once when I was moving three years ago... more for nostalgia than reference...

Great Advice Sheron! 

Posted by Paul Silver, Rhode Island full service real estate firm almost 13 years ago
Your things have things? That is a new one on me and heck a funny. The top/bottom thing is a result of sloppiness ending in stains, snags, shrinkage. The usual! Get your camera out...it really does work!!!
Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

Sheron,

Well I told you that you inspired me, and today was the day.  I was taking pics like nobody's business, and now I have a beautifully organized, color-coordinated closet, and a nice big box of clothing to give to Goodwill.  Another win-win!

Posted by Penny Province, Province Staged Properties (Province Staged Properties) almost 13 years ago

Sheron - I think this is  a fantastic idea.  I just worked with a client that had a bunch of these boat things - can't describe them but they were large and all around.  She said they were the centerpieces from her son's bar mitzvah and she could not part with them - we put them in a storage room in the home.  But what I would really like is to get people organized and help them to lead a less cluttered life.   You know I'm a big photography buff so next time I encounter this situation I will offer to photograph the items for them.  I think it might really help!!!  Thanks for the tip. 

BTW - the hand painted 2 piece outfit with original art was mine so please return it asap!!!

  

Posted by Maureen Maureen almost 13 years ago

Oh help me stop laughing...it hurts Maureen. I am going to keep this! I will put it in my photo album and wait to see who says something...your hysterical.

Penny - I feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Thank you 

Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

Sheron, ok you've inspired me to get up and....nah, maybe later.

Sue 

Posted by Sue Argue, NH Home Stager (Staged First Impressions) almost 13 years ago

Sue, are you arguing with me??? I love your last name. Some would say that is my middle name but I argue the point with them =0

Pull up a chair, have a glass of wine, put on your favorite music and go for it. 

Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago
Ha! I DARE ya to come up with an Argue joke I haven't heard yet Sheron. Ga head..............  :)
Posted by Sue Argue, NH Home Stager (Staged First Impressions) almost 13 years ago
There you go again! It is endless, isn't it. I just chuckle at the thought. =) How many glasses of wine have you had? Is your closet organized yet? Huh!
Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

We're getting a blizzard today. I'm starting out by taking Ann Cummings' advice and handwriting some notes to send out. I make "scrap-booking" kind of cards and get so creative doing them...la la lala la..........oh, did 3 hours just go by????????

Sue 

Posted by Sue Argue, NH Home Stager (Staged First Impressions) almost 13 years ago

And of course we all know that the Latin for Argue is Litigate... too much law school for me...

I am working to find a joke with the either of these words, in Latin, so that we can pretend to be well educated.

 

Posted by Paul Silver, Rhode Island full service real estate firm almost 13 years ago

How about:

Absentem laedit, cum ebrio qui litigat...

A man who ARGUES with a drunk is abusing an absent man...

no, I guess not... 

Posted by Paul Silver, Rhode Island full service real estate firm almost 13 years ago

I cant make out the pictures here... very very frustrating... even tried my telescope...

perhaps my microscope will work better...

(busy trying to figure out how to look at my computer screen with my microscope, and missing out on a great deal of work because of it... 

Posted by Paul Silver, Rhode Island full service real estate firm almost 13 years ago

Okay I'm laughing now...so I made the pictures larger just for you Paul

Sue - Have you hear that one? Paul's Latin??? If I am not careful I might learn my limitations here...still struggling with my English...

Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

I think the latin quote is from Seneca, or perhaps Martial or Cato... used to know all these things, but my backpack is too full now...

There is, you know, only so much space in my brain... new items go on top, and the old ones settle down to the bottom, and when full, those bottom dwellers just drain right out to sea. As Seneca the younger said once, Postquatum docti prodierunt, boni desunt -- When the learned men appeared, the good ones went missing...

As for the photos, my microscope was working (photoshop) but thanks for the added lustre of your beautiful person... 

Not to Argue, but how about this:

Hoc vinum Falernum annorum quadragenta est. Bene aetatem fert. --> this one is for sure from Cicero, an old favorite of mine, and I was reminded of it from your recent comment elsewhere about Martinis

This wine is forty years old. It does not show its age.

Posted by Paul Silver, Rhode Island full service real estate firm almost 13 years ago

looked up that previous quote about Argue... was actually said by a fellow named Syrus... of whom the only thing I can remember is that he said this, and even that I did not remember... I suppose I remember what he said, but not him...

sad sort of... 

Posted by Paul Silver, Rhode Island full service real estate firm almost 13 years ago

Sheron, I didn't read all the posts but I have a De=clutter with Feng Shui book that suggested if you have the photos of you wearing the clothes keep them so that you can release the actual clothes.  I have things that are sentimental to me as well.  Loved the pictures and remember me telling you, you reminded me of someone, then BAM it hit me,  you look so much like a lady I knew from my flower shop days, she was a 4th grade teacher and you will not believe this and I am not kidding, her name is Pepe Looney, the name is definitely a little whacky but she is/was very pretty and she had excellent taste.  I have not seen her since the 80's.  Anyway your pictures were great!  In my closet I have to color code and it works, that was also in the book.

Happy Releasing.

Joni

Posted by Joni Van Deventer, RoomByRoomRedesign (RoomByRoomRedesign) almost 13 years ago

Paul - I'm right brained and have no clue what you are saying...here is a quote from a California girl "If you can't make it better, leave it alone and move on". As far as your backpack...I am beyond forgetting, I am having trouble connecting the dots :0 Exactly what are you doing over there in photoshop? Did you see Maureen's photo enhancement above? Funny!

Joni - I am Feng Shui-ing and didn't know it. The clothes are going in a yard sale this weekend. $200 outfits will sell for about $5 but I don't care...already gone in my mind. And if I had your closet I would invite Oprah over to see it! Your friends name is very very funny. Thanks! How's your week going?

 

Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

Sheron... from chatting with you, I feel you might just know a thing or two about Feng Shui... just a thing or two...

And I may get a bit over the top but it is right brained all the way...

Thanks Sheron... 

Posted by Paul Silver, Rhode Island full service real estate firm almost 13 years ago
Sheron, I am on hold now waiting for clients' to make certain decisions.  I work tomorrow with a friend painting and I hope we get finished early.  I have been getting pictures together for a new portfolio, so I have been on the computer most of the day.  How are you?  You know you could always come to Texas, I promise we'd treat you right, as a matter of fact I have a room just for you, lol.  Take care.
Posted by Joni Van Deventer, RoomByRoomRedesign (RoomByRoomRedesign) almost 13 years ago
Paul - my gears operate on intuition so it is natural to be a natural. I am having fun with Feng Shui but in no way am I even close to being an expert. I am very curious about discovering the similarities between our arts and there are many. I am getting ready for my next post on FS but I can't get past the pink hearts I am supposed to have in my kitchen. We'll see what I wake up with in the morning...I would like to see just once, a home that follows every suggestion by the book...it would be a circus or a house of horrors or both. Thanks for your interest...will keep you posted (get it...posted)
Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago
Hey Joni - didn't mean to ignore you, we must have been typing at the same time. I just know you are talented and can't wait to see your take on the spaces you are working with...very excited. That invitation...I would like to take you up on that someday...maybe you can land a project where you need some help? Wouldn't that be fun!!! And in a 5000 sq ft home, I could get really comfy.
Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

Oh I thought this blog was gonna be about a totally DIFFERENT subject! LOL

But fun none the less.

Me

Posted by Craig Schiller almost 13 years ago
Now Craig...you didn't really think???
Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

this is such a darling post! thanks for sharing.

 cheers,

cindy 

Posted by Cindy Lin, Host, The Home Staging Show podcast (Staged4more School of Home Staging) almost 13 years ago
Thank you Cindy...it was a fun discovery. After all the years of sorting, I finally reached Nirvana.
Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

Nirvana huh... I have been and remain an avid searcher...

 

Posted by Paul Silver, Rhode Island full service real estate firm almost 13 years ago
Paul, Nirvana is "revealed", not found. The simplest of things make me happy. Good luck on your search.
Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

oh... and I thought it was all about silence...

hmmm...

Posted by Paul Silver, Rhode Island full service real estate firm almost 13 years ago
Better chance of 'finding' Nirvana when you have silenced your past...aka old identifiers...
Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

Sheron: You sexy thang ;] I think you should do an AR fashion show  ...lol

Those outfits are classic I love 'em!

 

Maureen: Girl you are too funny :]...lol

 

 

Posted by Dawn Cook almost 13 years ago
Sheron, are the feng shui love gems back in the closet?
Posted by Sue Argue, NH Home Stager (Staged First Impressions) almost 13 years ago

Dawn, not a bad idea...got a picture you want to share? I would love to see you in something that needs staging. Any glitzy rhinestone t-shirts? How about some platform shoes? I have a pair from Nordstrom's I still wear and guess what...they are back in fashion!

Sue, my love gems are really generating some interesting movements in my love corner...my lawn is getting mowed (no charge) and my law of attraction is becoming visible because I am expecting change. Throw away your crystal balls ladies and get yourself a lucky bamboo plant! Will be entering phase 2 in my Feng Shui Journal next week. This week I am a cheerleader mom and a karate mom and a mom of a birthday child so will be living in my car. 

Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

I need some lucky bamboo. My mom fell and broke her wrist and my car got rear-ended this am taking kids to school, who missed the bus AGAIN.

Whew, I'm done. Maybe I should go back and read TLW's whining blog? 

Posted by Sue Argue, NH Home Stager (Staged First Impressions) almost 13 years ago
Sheron, did you finish the closet makeover?  Did you have the yard sale?  I will be eliminating clutter in the garage soon, we usually take some things to Habitat for Humanity or they will even come and pick it up.  It's the Spring Clean Thing I guess for everyone.  Glad to see you are out of the closet, I have had a tendency to hold on to things then one day like a light bulb I realised what in the world am I holding on to all this stuff, the stuff was becoming a burden so for the last few years I have eliminated a lot of clutter, it is liberating.  Now to work on my husband's clutter,  he is a pack rat so when he's gone I get rid of a few things here and there, that we will never need or use, and even if we did we would never find it.  In the feng shui book it says that in order to trust for the future you need to not hold on to ineffective or energy sapping junk, okay I paraphrased it was better put in the book but you know what I mean. 
Posted by Joni Van Deventer, RoomByRoomRedesign (RoomByRoomRedesign) almost 13 years ago

Hi Sheron - Great idea about taking photos of sentimental stuff.  I remember years ago my husband gave me a dozen roses for valentines day.  I grabbed the camera and took a picture, and said, "now I will have those roses forever".  To this day, I still have that picture. 

Anyway, I hope you got your closet organized (I HATE cleaning closets)!!!!  I find the best policy when doing so is to be ruthless.  If I haven't worn it in the last decade THROW IT OUT!!!!!!!!!

Maureen Graziano

Posted by Maureen Graziano (Third Eye Home Staging) almost 13 years ago

Every decade...you crack me up but we know it is true, don't we =0

I am so organized otherwise...if my scissors are not where they are supposed to be I take on a Hitler persona!

Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) almost 13 years ago

 I can't do this - yes I can - no I can't!!!

Actually my daughter goes thru my things, organizes them and suggests things to give up.

The things, clothes, whatever call up the memories - but I suppose pictures work too & take up a lot less space.

Posted by Kathleen Lordbock, Keller Williams Realty Professionals (Keller Williams Realty Professionals) over 12 years ago
Is your daughter old enough to start a business? That would be a good one..."Mommy Updates". I hearing it already from my 11 year old. She told me the other day that "If your parents like something then it is probably not cool". OUCH...I USED to be very cool and when did that stop?
Posted by Sheron Cardin, ARTIST - A Home Stager/Sellers Best Friend! (California Moods Inc) over 12 years ago

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